Girls…Zip Up !!!

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In my last post on teenage pregnancy, I wrote about a teenager who was “reaping” the consequences of teenage pregnancy. I did promise to look at the topic again as I strongly felt that there were still other issues to be looked into on the topic.

I was not really prepared to write, as I needed a strong inspiration to do so. This eventually came a few days ago.

I felt really sad when I over heard a guy telling his friends how he slept with a “cheap girl” several times and the girl still wanted more. Apparently, there was no prior relationship between the two. He simply met her somewhere and convinced her to follow him home, As he narrated his “use and dump” story, his friends had a good laugh. Like a sheep destined to be “slaughtered” the “victim” came around again while I was still close by. The guy’s body language clearly showed that it was the same girl that came around. Unknown to her, she was just another victim of “use, dump, re-use and dump…!!!”

This sad story accounts for majority of the teenage pregnancies that we have today. A situation where it takes very little effort to convince a girl to “open her legs,” apart from being very appalling, makes the large number of cases of teen pregnancies, inevitable.

I may not be a saint, but I think that one of the most degrading characters a teenage girl (other ages are not exempted) can have is the tendency to turn herself into a “public convenience” where every guy is invited. It’s really a pathetic sight to watch guys share their sexual experience with a particular girl. Some girls find it so hard to say “no.” Often times, financial inducement is not necessary. In some cases, a guy’s smile is enough, to put a girl on bed. Such girls can sleep with every guy that is willing. How pathetic ! How shameless !!!

The common and inevitable aftermath of all these is unwanted pregnancies, denied pregnancies, abortions, damaged wombs, complete collapse of self control, getting and “distribution” of sexually transmitted diseases, especially HIV/AIDS and sometimes death !!!

Food for thought : What kind of wives would such girls later become. I feel really sorry for good guys who would eventually marry such loose and unprincipled girls, who would definately do everything possible to cover up their strong penchant for promiscuity. But can a woman hide childlessness? It is a settled fact that some cases of childlessness in marriages are traceable to abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and some “prevention” drugs – all of which characterised the pre-marriage days of the affected women !!!

So, girls…Zip up !!!

A word is enough for the wise.

Thanks for your time.

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Hand Over Your “Battles” To God

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She’s 28. She is light complexioned “beauty queen.” She has a very good job. Life is really good for her. She has a very reliable fiance, with whom they have already concluded plans to go and say “I do, I do”. She would pass for anything you would call a happy and lucky lady.

In the middle of all these “good news” is a very sad aspect of her life – her boss is making life miserable for her. According to her, he insist on sleeping with her if she wants to continue working in the bank. She’s confused. She loves her job. She does not want to be a prostitute by exchanging her body for job security. She does not want to cheat on her fiance. What should she do?

There are similar battles everywhere – home, school, office, place of residence and even in the church. There are some battles that are hard to fight. This particular one is one of them. The tendency is for the lady to consider the good job and scarcity of such jobs and therefore want to give in.

The good news is that there is no battle that God cannot make the “strong men” appear like a human beings without skeletons. He has shown His awesome power in the most unimaginable situations. Hallelujah !!!

I call Exodus 14 “My Comforter.” This chapter often brings tears to my eyes every time I read it (even as I do this post). It’s a familiar story – a story of “hopelessness turned into testimony.” With the Red Sea in front and thousands of Egyptian warriors behind, God told Moses to tell the seemingly hopeless Isrealites : “Wherefore criest thou unto me? speak unto the children of Israel, that they go forward..”(Exodus 14:15). That really sounds stupid, with the reality on ground. But “…the Lord saved Israel that day out of the hand of the Egyptians; and Israel saw the Egyptians dead upon the sea shore. And Israel saw that great work which the Lord did upon the Egyptians: and the people feared the Lord, and believed the Lord, and his servant Moses.”(Exo 14:30-31)

Goliath was another oppressor who thought that size, power and weapons were more potent than the word and power of God. Everybody doubted David’s ability to confront, let alone destroy the giant. But David said “…moreover, The Lord that delivered me out of the paw of the lion, and out of the paw of the bear, he will deliver me out of the hand of this Philistine.” (1 Sam17:37) God did !!!

This is basis of my recommendation – God has shown His awesome wisdom and power in my “battles” in the past and so I can confidently tell the lady here to hand over her battles to God and enjoy the last laugh !!!

Because God fought for the Israelites and David, their stories ended up with testimonies. I have many to share myself. So, when “oppression” shows its ugly face, take up David’s attitude :

“Then said David to the Philistine, Thou comest to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied. ” (1 Sam 17:45)

Looking forward to reading your testimonies.

Thanks for your time.

 

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Let’S Talk About Sex !!!

Condom 2Hmnn. I am very sure I got an ”extra” attention from you on seeing the title of my post. Read on….

Last night I watched a TV Show that addressed a topic very few people, especially mothers, like talking about in public. And that is SEX (sexual intercourse) !!!

It also featured a short drama where a mother told her friend that her daughter asked her about sex. The friend, who did not like the development, said she hoped that the woman (the mother of the girl) cautioned the daughter. She said she did. The girl was thrown into confusion thereafter. If the mother cannot talk to her about sex, then who will.

This programme took me down memory lane. There is this friend of mine I met years back. In the course of one of our discussions she told me she lost her virginity at the age of 17. I asked her if she was not afraid of pregnancy to have fallen for the temptation. She said the boy told her that sex for the first time cannot lead to pregnancy. I asked her if her mother did not teach her about sex, pregnancy and related issues. She said her mother had never discussed such issues with her before. She said the mother used to call her a “small child” anytime she asked her questions relating to sex and relationships with boys. All she knew about sex and related issues came from mainly her friends and her biology teacher who was so shy all through the time he taught them “reproduction.”

So, it’s simple. If you do not teach your kids about sex and other facts of life, you leave them with no other alternative than to get their lessons from outsiders. One of such likely lessons is that a girl cannot get pregnant if she’s having sex for the first time. What a lesson !

A word is enough for the wise.

Thanks for your time.

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