Marriage Could Turn Out To Be A Nightmare If…

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Last Sunday, I received a phone call from an acquaintance who wanted me to intervene in a marital squabble with her husband. Incidentally, I have lost count of the number of times I have been invited to intervene in their quarrels. Sincerely, I do not like having direct involvements in marital affairs, just like I don’t like people involving themselves in mine. I prefer a medium such as what I am doing now, to do that.
What really annoyed me most was that, as in the past, what caused the quarrel was so minor as to make the husband throw out her things and ask her to go back to her family. I was so upset. Sadly, their seven months old baby was caught in the middle of what I chose to call “immaturity in marriage.”

By the grace of God, my marriage will be six years old in September this year. Glory to God ūüôā I can never claim to have a perfect marriage to be a “marriage counselor.” But sincerely, I have learnt a lot in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage, to be able to share a few tips, targeted, mainly to those who are planning to get married some day in the near future. However, if you are married, going through my tips will certainly be rewarding.

Marriage is a sweet experience; but where the “rules” are treated with insignificance, or were the man and woman chose not to play by the “rules,” it could just be a prolonged nightmare, so horrifying that it could ¬†scare (and have been scaring) single ladies and guys away from it.

Here are a few tips (just 14, to avoid a long list) I have been able to gather in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage….

1. Commit your marriage into the hands of God. God knows the past, present and future of your relationship.

2. The immediate thing that happens after marriage is that “I” and “my” ceases to be a priority. “We” and “our” becomes a priority in all that you do.

3. As a matter of “MUST,” you have to adjust your relationship with your male friends and female friends, especially your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend (as the case may be), to reflect your new status.

4. Do unto your spouse as you would have him/her do unto you.

5. Generally, it is being said that men are the heads of the family. I agree. However, note that a good family head MUST be caring, considerate and supportive to the wife.

6. One big mistake a man can make is to insist on a master-servant relationship between himself and his wife.

7. Every spouse loves a humble spouse. Pride stinks !!! It is the single most powerful home-destroyer !!!

8. If a man wants to show that he has power, he should not show it on the wife, he should go and sign up with World Wrestling Federation ūüôā

9. As much as you can, keep your marital problems away from outsiders.

10. Strive to be the best husband (or wife) in the world and the best father (or mum) in the world when you start having children.

11. The worst solution to any marital problem is a separation or divorce, especially where you have children.

12. Read my post on 15 wrong reasons to get married.

13. Tolerance, perseverance, understanding, endurance, patience, slow-to-anger and over-looking of trivial issues, are traits spouses MUST imbibe.

14. A 24-hour communication must exist between spouses. Talk to each other. Do not be a boring spouse. Do not make your spouse seek who to share her thoughts with from outside. Do not hide your grievances from each other. Do not bottle up your thoughts towards each other.

In most cases, marriages are what the spouses make them to be !

May the Lord bless us all with marital bliss ūüôā

Thanks for your time ūüôā

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Hi. I got this beautiful message from from Pastor Bimbo Odukoya’s facebook page. I am sure it would be very useful to you or someone you know…..

1. You must not get married because of lust.

2. Infatuation (Love at first sight- sudden love)
3. Just liking the idea of marriage. It’s just like joining the Army because you like the uniform. Nobody joins the army with a promise that he won’t go to war.4. The fear of remaining unmarried(my friends are all married, my sisters are all
married e.t.c)5. Pressure (parents, friends, etc)

6. Because you want to escape being jilted (if he is the right man/woman, he or she wont jilt you)

7. Getting married for money (money does not guarantee a successful marriage at all.

8. Using marriage as an escape route! [I am tired of mom and dad]

9. Having pity… (feeling sorry for the Man or the Woman.)

10. Foolish Expectation……[Marrying an unbeliever and expecting him/her to change in the course marriage! especially if they don’t change before you marry them]

11. Marrying for Beauty or Handsomeness…….[The best time to access a woman properly is absolutely when she wakes up in the morning!] Let him see you as you are Now!!!

12. Accidental PREGNANCY! [Just because you become pregnant along the line doesn’t mean you have to bury your destiny there.

13. Tribal Connection [I must marry someone from my town.,,etc…]

14. To satisfy your Parents.

15. Marrying to hurt your Parent

Dr D.K Olukoya (MFM)

Truly, GOD Answers Prayers !!!

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Pastor E.A. Adeboye, General Overseer, RCCG.

Saturday, 16th March 2013, will for ever be a day to remember for a¬†colleague¬†of mine. That was the day God, in His infinite wisdom and magnanimity decided to make her the happiest woman in the world, by making her a mother….after waiting on God for……wait for it…….nine years !!! Wowwww !!! I can imagine the feeling. I can imagine the way she smiles now. I can imagine how the new father feels. I can also imagine how they now see God.

One thing that is hard to explain is why GOD does things the way and time He does them. But what I don’t need any Pastor to tell me is that¬†TRULY, ¬†GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS !!! Its really encouraging for me because she is the third person I will talk to God about concerning the fruit of the womb, and God did not make me, and every other person who wished her God’s mercies, to be put to shame.

So, to GOD be all the glory for His mercies for allowing fertilisation to take place, for seeing her through during the pregnancy, delivery and post delivery. Glory be to God for the angelic gift of a boy that ended the nine months journey. May His mercies and grace continue to shine upon her, the baby ad the husband. May the Lord be a father to the baby in all respects.

Are you waiting on God for something? Be patient. Is it not better to wait on God for ever than to run after the devil and his¬†disciples?¬† Hold on tight to God. It is worth it because (Prov 10:22 says) : “The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich,¬†and he addeth no sorrow with it.”

Put Him to¬†remembrance¬†all the time. ¬†Isaiah 43:26 says : “Put me in remembrance: let us plead together: declare thou,¬†that thou mayest be justified.”

Do not listen to discouraging stories. Do not be moved by discouraging scenes. No matter how hopeless the situation might be “…..¬†with God nothing shall be impossible” (Luke 1:37). ¬†The¬†Israelites¬†(Exodus 14) were completely hopeless at the Red Sea. But God shocked them all when ¬†“…the LORD said to Moses, “Why do you cry to me? ¬†Tell the people of Israel to go forward.”¬†(Exodus 14:15).¬†It sounds¬†really¬†stupid. Isn’t it? ¬†But, as by GOD, ¬†”¬†Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD drove the sea back by a strong east wind all night, and made the sea dry land, and the waters were divided. And the people of Israel went into the midst of the sea on dry ground, the waters being a wall to them on their right hand and on their left.”

God is awesome !!! For me and my household, the taste of the pudding is in the eating. It is either GOD or GOD. Are you waiting on Him for anything ? Do you know someone who is ? I have a message from from GOD to you (or the person) :

¬†‚ÄúFor I know the plans I have for you,‚Äô declares the LORD, ‚Äėplans to prosper¬†you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will ¬†seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬† ¬†¬†

Thanks for your time and CONGRATULATIONS to Mrs Itunu Ashogbon and family.

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