Open Letter To The Children Of The World

Happy Children's Day To You All

Happy Children’s Day To You All

Hello dear children,

Warm greetings to you all.

From the depth of my heart, I want to rejoice with you for seeing yet another Children’s Day. You will appreciate the fact that not all the children who celebrated the last one are alive to celebrate this one. You are just privileged beneficiaries of the amazing grace of God. If you have not thanked God today, please stop reading this post, and quickly thank God for His mercies over you.

For those lovely babies who are celebrating their first Children’s Day, I say congratulations to you too, and may the mercies of God give you more Children’s Day.

As you eat, drink and have fun today, please ponder over these ten thoughts of mine….

1. Put God first in all that you do. He will always direct you and bless your undertakings.

2. Discover your talents and pursue it prayerfully.

3. A good talent and a good education will make you stand out.

4. Listen to and live by the words of wisdom of your parents.

5. Beware of friends or peer groups that are likely to bring you regrets or destroy your life.

6. If you are a girl, live a life of dignity and carry yourself in a respectable manner. Command respect from the boys.

7. Be trendy, fashionable and modern, but be decent in your dressing. You will be addressed the way you dress.

8. Imbibe good traits like humilty, hardwork, integrity, truthfullness, honesty, respect for people, sincerity, and fear of God.

9. Follow the developments in today’s technology with wisdom and caution.

10. Visit my site my regularly. You will never regret you did 🙂

I wish you the very best in life and God’s love. I look forward to celebrating with you again next year, by the grace of God.

Happy Children’s Day.

Your friend from afar,

What Are We Teaching Our Children?

I noticed something about my  son (now 5 plus) – he often watches with keen interest most of the things that we do at home. Many times he has done certain things which I am noted for and I do not need to ask “where did he get that from?” So, the slogan in my home is “whatever you will not want him to do, do not do it in his presence.”

The younger sister too (now a year plus) is taking from him. The other day she (then 8 months plus) attempted to open the glass shelve with one hand and a DVD in the other hand. She was obviously attempting to play the disc just as she has been seeing us do.

No doubt, this is very common in every home. Our kids watch and take after us, if not soon, later in life. A child who grew up in a house where the parents are always quarreling and fighting is watching keenly. Such a child is most likely to have imbibed the attitude of aggressiveness, malice-keeping and fighting, even over very minor issues. When he/she gets married, a replay of what used to happen back at home is most likely to take place in their homes too.

Our children are watching everything we do – our dress culture, kind of friends we keep, groups we belong to, films we watch, places we go to, the way we walk, the way we talk, our comportment, attitude to life/work, likes/dislikes, the way we eat and even the way we sleep. For a father who is used to sleeping out and night clubbing, a free ticket to sleeping out and constant night clubbing has unknowingly been given to his children. In fact, sleeping out becomes a way of life. I know of a boy who took to alcoholism because “my dad cannot stop me because he is a born-drunkard!” I think it makes a lot of sense. In fact, they are consciously or unconsciously watching and learning from our (parents’) life styles !

How does a parent go about cautioning the child when he/she is neck-dip in the same practice. How does a father (or mother) who is a known robber or fraudster be able to “make a noise” when his child is caught in such acts? Can a mother who does not see anything wrong in nudity caution her daughter for the same act? Would it be morally right for a chain-smoking father to raise alarm if he catches his child sniffing cocaine or using any other hard drug?

Check out what our Lord Jesus says about this : “And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother’s eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother’s eye.” (Matt 7:3)

It also reminds me of the encounter our Lord Jesus had with the Scribes and Pharisees over the woman who committed adultery. He said : “He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.” (John 8:7).

Thus, parenting requires a lot of care, caution, responsibility and role-modelling on our part. Children are fast learners, especially as it relates to what they see around them. We therefore should be able to “cast a stone” without a feeling of guilt and should be able to help our children remove the “mote” in their eyes without someone telling us to remove the “beam” from our own eyes first.

May God Almighty help us to “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Prov 22:6)…amen !!!

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