Keep Your Head Up. You Will Soon Become A Mother/Father !!!

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I  got married in September 2007. By July 24, 2008, God, by His amazing grace, blessed me with a son. As an advocate of child-spacing, my second child, a lovely angelic princess of God’s Kingdom, arrived July last year.

My testimony is the type many couples would love to share after marriage. Sadly, for some, it is not so – months have turned into years, in an experience that only those who are going through it can really tell how it hurts.

Waiting on God for a child could really be a horrible experience, especially when months turns into years. It has destroyed a lot of marriages and has pushed a lot of couples, who, in their desperation, have ended up seeking help from ”man” who ”gave” them children that later turned out to be objects of pain, sorrow and regrets.

The society too, is not helpful. Childless couples, especially the women, are looked down upon and they are usually subjects of gossips. Parents of the couple, especially the husband, become restless and suggestive. The height of these apprehension is the suggestion by the parents of the man that he should take another wife. Interestingly, the mood is usually so disturbing that such suggestions come without actually finding out the cause of the problem.

I do not know why the inspiration to do this post became my priority today, because I already have 15 other topics on the queue which I have not yet had the time to develop. It is obvious there is somebody out there that GOD really wants to say KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. YOU WILL SOON BECOME A MOTHER/FATHER !!!

The good news is that I know of people who patiently, though painfully, waited on God for the fruit of the womb and are today very happy couples. Specifically, I know of three, ten and sixteen years of waiting that ended up in HALLELUJAHHH !!!   I also know of this very inspiring and interesting story in the Bible…..

“Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart,

Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old?

and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?” (Gen 17:17)

“Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, 

After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?

And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh,

saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old?

Is any thing too hard for the Lord?” (Gen 18:12-13)  

“And the Lord visited Sarah as he had said,

and the Lord did unto Sarah as he had spoken.

For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age,

at the set time of which God had spoken to him.” (Gen 21:1-2)

GOD IS STILL GOD !!! Have you been waiting on God for your own baby? Are you tired?  Just hold on…..a little while…..a little while…..keep praying…..keep praying…..keep putting Him in remembrance. KEEP YOUR  HEAD UP. YOU WILL CARRY YOUR BABY SOON, in the mighty name of Jesus, amen !!!!

Truly, GOD Answers Prayers !!!

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Pastor E.A. Adeboye, General Overseer, RCCG.

Saturday, 16th March 2013, will for ever be a day to remember for a colleague of mine. That was the day God, in His infinite wisdom and magnanimity decided to make her the happiest woman in the world, by making her a mother….after waiting on God for……wait for it…….nine years !!! Wowwww !!! I can imagine the feeling. I can imagine the way she smiles now. I can imagine how the new father feels. I can also imagine how they now see God.

One thing that is hard to explain is why GOD does things the way and time He does them. But what I don’t need any Pastor to tell me is that TRULY,  GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS !!! Its really encouraging for me because she is the third person I will talk to God about concerning the fruit of the womb, and God did not make me, and every other person who wished her God’s mercies, to be put to shame.

So, to GOD be all the glory for His mercies for allowing fertilisation to take place, for seeing her through during the pregnancy, delivery and post delivery. Glory be to God for the angelic gift of a boy that ended the nine months journey. May His mercies and grace continue to shine upon her, the baby ad the husband. May the Lord be a father to the baby in all respects.

Are you waiting on God for something? Be patient. Is it not better to wait on God for ever than to run after the devil and his disciples?  Hold on tight to God. It is worth it because (Prov 10:22 says) : “The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.”

Put Him to remembrance all the time.  Isaiah 43:26 says : “Put me in remembrance: let us plead together: declare thou, that thou mayest be justified.”

Do not listen to discouraging stories. Do not be moved by discouraging scenes. No matter how hopeless the situation might be “….. with God nothing shall be impossible” (Luke 1:37).  The Israelites (Exodus 14) were completely hopeless at the Red Sea. But God shocked them all when  “…the LORD said to Moses, “Why do you cry to me?  Tell the people of Israel to go forward.” (Exodus 14:15). It sounds really stupid. Isn’t it?  But, as by GOD,  ” Moses stretched out his hand over the sea; and the LORD drove the sea back by a strong east wind all night, and made the sea dry land, and the waters were divided. And the people of Israel went into the midst of the sea on dry ground, the waters being a wall to them on their right hand and on their left.”

God is awesome !!! For me and my household, the taste of the pudding is in the eating. It is either GOD or GOD. Are you waiting on Him for anything ? Do you know someone who is ? I have a message from from GOD to you (or the person) :

 “For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will  seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”                                                                                                                  

Thanks for your time and CONGRATULATIONS to Mrs Itunu Ashogbon and family.

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Never lose hope…

Child delivery : A tribute to God almighty and all mothers, especially my late sister

Keep your head up : God is still God

The amazing grace of God

Childlessness : Marriage gone sour

Childlessness : Marriage Turned Soar

It is the dream of every man and woman to, someday, gather people to witness the solemnization of their relationships. It is a day every bachelor or spinster looks forward to. Friends and family members rejoice with the newly wed and look forward to celebrating with them nine months (all things being equal) from the day of the wedding.

And then the countdown starts. Sadly, for some couples, this count down never starts. And then anxiety and frustration sets in. Usually the parents of the husband, especially the mother, become apprehensive. In some cases, the man looks outside for a child. In extreme cases, the man files for a divorce, of course after confirming that the problem is not from him. In all of these, the woman suffers more. In today’s world where women reach menopause as early as their early thirties, one can understand the extent of trauma they go through. Childlessness is therefore one single home destroyer and source of pain and anguish to so many couples globally.

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Image courtesy bigjom/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I really feel for them and hence decided to contribute my quota towards bringing overwhelming joy to some of the traumatised marriages and to also help to prevent more cases of childlessness.

However since I am not a medical doctor, and may thus not be able to do a very professional analysis, I am only dwelling on some man-made causes of childlessness. Some of them are actually true life experiences. 

They are as follows :-

*Sexually transmitted diseases – This is one of the most common causes of infertility in both men and women. I know of a lady who confessed to her friend that a test she carried out confirmed that the STD she got from her boyfriend had permanently destroyed her womb. This was in 2004. Till date she has not been able to conceive. Multiple sex partners is a major source of STDs.

*Abortion – Abortion is another major case of childlessness in many women. A lady once confessed to having had her womb damaged while undergoing abortion, which apparently was not the first time.

*Alcohol – This seriously affects sperm counts in men and increases the chances of birth defects in women. A very high level of alcohol in the woman’s blood can lead to Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. This is growth, mental, and physical problems that occurs in a baby when a woman drinks alcohol during pregnancy. Alcohol intake can also cause miscarriage or stillbirth, premature delivery, abnormal heart structure, behavior problems, mental retardation, poor growth and infant death.

*weight issues – excessive and careless eating habits leading to overweight can also affect the ability of a woman to get pregnant. Poor eating habits leading to underweight have also been found out to have negative consequences on pregnancy.

* Smoking – this has been discovered to have the effect of lowering the sperm count in men, and increases the chances of miscarriages, and premature births in women.

*Drugs – drugs like marijuana and anabolic steroids can affect sperm counts in men. Also, cocaine use in pregnant women can cause severe retardations and kidney problems in babies.   

*Exposure to toxins or chemicals in the work place or surrounding can cause mutations, birth defects, spontaneous abortion, disorders of infertility. Lead, radiation, ethylene oxide are some chemicals that can affect conception in women.

*wearing tight clothes – in order for the testes to produce sufficient quality and quantity of sperm, the temperature of the testes must be lower than the core body temperature. That is why the testes are located outside the body. Testes were made to receive enough air. Thus wearing of tight clothes like boxers and briefs are obviously not the best as they can cause over heat resulting in low sperm count for the man. Studies have shown that low sperm count is the greatest cause of infertility in men.

It follows therefore that some of the many cases of childlessness in marriages are actually the aftermath of some habits and indulgence by both the man and the woman before marriage or during marriage.

So be careful how you have fun, eat, relax, dress, release frustration and generally live your life, as your lifestyle, if not checked, might have negative effect on your future happiness.

Wishing you happy parenting (or happy parenting in advance, as the case be).

Thank you for your time.