Keep Your Head Up….Breakthrough Lies Ahead

IMG_20131227_113138 (1)Have you ever found yourself in a very difficult situation, where you find yourself in deep thoughts enmeshed in hopelessness and a feeling that seems to scream “GIVE UP. IT’S NO USE?” As such times, it seems as if it is all over. You don’t seem to see any light at the end of the tunnel. It seems you are the worst sinner on earth who is probably suffering for his/her sins. In extreme cases, you may have thought of doing some nasty things. And as such times, all you feel like doing is to put you head down, with or without you hand providing support and soak yourself in a feat of worry. Well, if you have, you are not alone because I have found myself in similar situations a number of times 🙂

I do not know where I got it from – I have a “die-hard” kind of attitude. My son also has this “daddy I can do it” attitude 🙂 I always believe that I am very close to my goal…my target…a solution to my problems or an answer to a nagging question. I am always afraid that I may later discover, painfully, that an option or action I shunned was actually my joker. Even though it is natural to worry, I have discovered over time, that worrying itself, is a monster on its own, which can destroy one, if one is not very careful. Many cases of hypertension have been traced to worrying and mental stress. Doctors said my mother died of complications arising from hypertension. This occurred after the death of my dad. How sad.

As I speak, I have some underachieved targets in life. One fact no can take away from me is that every problem under heaven, has a solution. I only need to look for it. In looking for it, I have discovered that obstacles have one mission; and that is, to live up to the meaning of the word itself – to prevent me from reaching my goals. I have also discovered that ALL obstacles can, have been and will always be surmountable. So, rather that brood over problems, I have developed an attitude which makes me to constantly search for “bridges” that will take me to my targets, my goals, my sweet dream and my happiness 🙂  As I do this, I am not oblivious of the fact that I can NEVER make good success without GOD’s help. His words provide me loads of hope.

My journey through life has shown that a lot of people have achieved huge successes in their endeavous mainly because they stayed on…they refused to give up….they believed in themselves….they believed that success and overcoming challenges usually require staying focused and excessively determined to follow the paths that will lead to breakthroughs.

Success stories abound everywhere – in all sectors and in all strata of life. Aside from those who inherit success/wealth from parents or other sources, all success stories are similar – loads of hard work, determination, refusal to accept failure and always keeping heads up when failure or challenges force heads down in order to avoid worrying into permanent failure. This is the path I have “planted” myself. So, when trouble, failure, problems or challenges force my head down, I put it up again and again 🙂 We can see clearer, hear better and think better with our heads up.  It takes courage, resilience and guts to stare problems in the face and mutter  “it shall come to pass” as I am used to muttering.

In all of this, problems and challenges are determined to stay with us for as long as we unable to do the right things to eliminate them. So, let’s keep our heads up….fight problems and challenges……and we shall overcome, by the grace of God 🙂

God bless and direct us all, amen.

Thanks for your time 🙂

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Unwanted And Rejected Pregnancies: The Days After…

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There is this pastor. A very strong one at that. He is married, but does not have a child yet. Then suddenly, he falls for the persuasive powers of the devil. First, he impregnates the first daughter of the General Overseer of the church he pastors. Not done, he impregnates the second daughter. Still, seemingly unaware of the gimmicks of the devil, he impregnates a member of the church. In a bid to hide his atrocities, he takes the younger daughter for abortion. She dies in the process. The elder daughter, in a bid to remove the unwanted pregnancy, drinks a concoction given to her by her friends. Bad news…the womb is completely destroyed in the process and had to be removed. The parents of the girls get to know. Hell is let loose….

While he was still being ”burnt in hell,” the other church member tells the pastors wife about the pregnancy. By now I am sure you can imagine the rest of the story…..

In another case, a guy professes “love” to his girlfriend using all sorts of “sweet lies.” Just like all irresponsible guys, he had a mission. He accomplishes it and she gets pregnant. Then reality stares the girl in the face. What she taught was love was just similar to the gimmicks the serpent used to tempt Eve at the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3) and bring sin and suffering into the world. As expected, he rejects the pregnancy, becomes unfriendly, then very aggressive and asks the girl to go and abort the pregnancy. She does and dies in the process. The guy took to his heels and the family of the now deceased girl are thrown into sorrow and mourning.

There are so many of this kind of sad stories of deceit and wickedness ending on a very fatal note. Unwanted or rejected pregnancies are common in all societies. The major reason being the decay in moral standards caused, in part, by societal and peer pressure, modernization, parental failure, and the desire to do what every other person is doing.

Two things I noticed in all rejected or unwanted pregnancies that I know are, firstly, the worst hit is usually the girls/ladies. Secondly, such relationships ALWAYS start on a sweet note and continue like that until the “bad news” is announced – “I am pregnant!!!” I told my kid sister that NO MAN WILL EVER TELL YOU THINGS THAT WILL SCARE YOU AWAY!!! So, she should expect sweet and reassuring words like : “my life is incomplete without you”; you look so sweet“; “I love you so much”; “I can never hurt you”; “you won’t get pregnant”; “if you get pregnant I will marry you”…… In some cases, beneath those sweet and reassuring words is a mission. A mission similar to that of the devil at the Garden of Eden. A mission with sorrow and so much tears waiting to come to fruition.

If you ask me, caution, wisdom, continuous prayers and a lot of parental guidance can abort these missions. Parents have a lot to do to avert the impending doom. It’s very sad to know that some parents have shelved their responsibilities all in the name of modernization and making enough money for the family. One thing that has come to stay is the unrelenting and unrepenting global society that is not interested and does not care about what happens to our children. It’s more like a self-centered trend. But since we care (do we have a choice?), we have to guide our children, especially the girls in issues related to dating, sex and relationships. Outsiders will only guide them to their (outsider’s) own advantage. We cannot afford to be tired. We cannot afford to look away. We cannot afford to move with global trends that have tears and sorrow as the likely outcomes. The best and most trust-worthy teachers and counselor a child can have is the parents!

SAVE SOMEONE FROM UNWANTED/REJECTED PREGNANCY TODAY. This post is one of my own efforts.

Thanks for your time.

Food for thought….

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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In Our Daily Living, Caution, Wisdom And Prayers Have Become Indispensable

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“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

Fela Anikulapo Kuti, one of Nigeria’s foremost singers may have left this world, but his songs lives on. One of his evergreen songs done in pidgin English [a simplified English language very popular in Nigeria] goes thus :

If you dey follow follow, make you open eye…

One interpretation of this is, if you are following people to do the things that they are doing or the things they want you to do, you should do them with wisdom and caution and where necessary, refuse to do it (them). Sadly, for some people, this good advice is only heard and even sung, but the strong message in the song is often relegated to the background or to insignificance.

As Christians, our BIBLE should be our first and major guide. It provides answers to ALL questions about God and Jesus Christ. What we have to do is to read and read and read…

One of the things we have to be cautious and wise about is the revelation of our Lord Jesus…

False messiahs and false prophets will appear

and perform great signs and wonders to deceive,

if possible, even the elect. –(Matt 24:24)

Note..… “even the elect.” Further say, He counsels…

“Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep’s clothing,

but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.

You will know them by their fruits…” – (Matt 7:15-16)

There is nothing wrong in seeking help from a pastor (or someone else). However, GOD’s words, not Michael Monday’s, says we should “beware.” I refuse to act as if I am wiser than GOD. Thus, extreme caution, wisdom and prayers will keep us from ravenous wolves in sheep’s clothing. In desperation to get miracles, deliverance, prosperity or power(and much more), some people have shunned caution and wisdom and ended up with regrets or “complex webs of regrets.”

I do know that some people are specially anointed with the power of God; and sometimes, we need help from these servants of God who are stronger than us spiritually. But, as God’s word counsels, “beware…” and “…you will know them by their fruits…”

But do we really have to run after pastors for help all the time? Is it only pastors that God listens to? The answer is NO !!! I am a living witness to the awesome and fearsome power of GOD. I love God so much because He is one great being who does not look down on anyone. He listens and hears, irrespective of our social, economic or spiritual status. He simply says….

“but as many as received Him,

to them gave He power

to become the sons of GOD.” – (John 1:12)

As a child of GOD, you enjoy all the benefits including answers to your prayers. Dear friend, God truly answers prayers!!! But read this…

Truly, I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain

‘go, throw yourself into the sea’

and does not doubt in their heart

but beliefs that what they say will happen,

it will be done for them – (NIV Mark 11:23)

But even at that, GOD IS AWESOMELY MAGNANIMOUS !!!  Cast all your worries upon Him for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).  You are sure of no regrets, no tears and sorrow, no payments, no mistakes, no imperfection, no consequences, no deceits, no abuse, honesty, complete answers to your prayers, no “hidden charges” and the pure, awesome power, love, grace and mercies of the God of gods and the Lord of lords. Start praying, if you have not…TODAY !!!  I invite you to read my testimonies under my “Inspiration” category.

I pray for GOD’s guidance and wisdom in all that we do and may He always remind us to commit all that concerns us into His ever-reliable care, in Jesus name, amen.

Thanks for your time.

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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All That Glitters Is Not Gold…

Collins is a very hard-working young man in his early thirties. He had a job which can be described as a good one in terms of the major parameters for assessing a job – good salary, prospects for growth, good welfare schemes among others. In search of greener pastures, he resigned from his job for another because of the mouth-watering offers that came with the new job – a car, better salary, foreign training and accommodation among others. Not too long after resumption, he gets to discover that there were some things about the new job which were not revealed to him – most of which would have made him turn down the job if he was told from the onset. But sadly, it was too late to go back to his former job. What followed can be described as a nightmare !

Jennifer is a very pretty lady. She has everything going for her – good job, a good family background and a good education. Then came John, an equally handsome young man with a good job too. John was a smooth talker who would make any girl to fall for him. John appeared like a saint. He had money to spend and give Jenifer a good time. His charming looks complimented his “good looking purse.” It was not too long that Jennifer realised that John was not just a married man, but had five children from three women. She also got to know that John was a drug Lord who was playing a hide and seek game with the cops !

Edwin, is a handsome and well-nurtured young man in his thirties.  With a good job and good looks, he had always believed that he could have any lady at his beck and call. He had a very humble and well-mannered lady for a fiancee. Even though she was not too pretty, she was the kind of lady a man would want to have as a life-time partner – humble, peaceful, respectful, hardworking, loving, caring, submissive and what have you. Two months to their wedding day, Edwin dropped a bomb – he could not go ahead with the planned wedding !!! Soon, it was discovered that the reason behind his action was because of a fair skinned beautiful lady that he had been dating for months. However, Edwin got the greatest shock of life when he got to know that the lady he had been having an affair with, and who was two months pregnant for him, was actually his step-sister whom his father abandoned from birth, together with her mother without the knowledge of Edwin’s mother !

McDonald, is a promising Nigerian Painter.  He is happily married with two kids. He gave his family a good life with  his business, with the support of his hard-working wife. Soon, his friend convinced him into taking taking part in a deal that would have fetched them a lot of money running into millions of Naira (Nigerian currency). McDonald fell for it. Things went messy. They were picked up by the police. McDonald and his friend are serving jail sentences. His family is in a very bad situation !

The United States of America is a beautiful country with the good things of life reasonably available for majority of her citizens and residents. This lured Tunde, a Nigerian, who was doing very well in his trading business – a good home, a car and a good bank account – to abandon his country with documents whose authenticity was in doubt. He was convinced by his friend that all his papers would be formalised when they get to the USA. With his eyes and mind on the USA, Tunde beat all the odds and got to America with his friend. Not too long after they arrived Tunde became a fugitive – always on the run from the cops for having fake travelling papers. After, two years of hiding in very odd places, Tunde was finally arrested and deported – to start life all over again in Nigeria !

Good things are good. They are desired by all, including my humble self.  But in desiring for them, wisdom, reasoning, and of course, prayers is needed. Collins, Jennifer, McDonald, Tunde and Edwin have one thing in common – they leaped before looking; or should I say they refused to look before leaping because they were convinced that all that glitters is gold !!!

A word is enough for the wise. Wishing you and me a regret-free weekend 🙂

 

 

 

Marriage Could Turn Out To Be A Nightmare If…

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Last Sunday, I received a phone call from an acquaintance who wanted me to intervene in a marital squabble with her husband. Incidentally, I have lost count of the number of times I have been invited to intervene in their quarrels. Sincerely, I do not like having direct involvements in marital affairs, just like I don’t like people involving themselves in mine. I prefer a medium such as what I am doing now, to do that.
What really annoyed me most was that, as in the past, what caused the quarrel was so minor as to make the husband throw out her things and ask her to go back to her family. I was so upset. Sadly, their seven months old baby was caught in the middle of what I chose to call “immaturity in marriage.”

By the grace of God, my marriage will be six years old in September this year. Glory to God 🙂 I can never claim to have a perfect marriage to be a “marriage counselor.” But sincerely, I have learnt a lot in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage, to be able to share a few tips, targeted, mainly to those who are planning to get married some day in the near future. However, if you are married, going through my tips will certainly be rewarding.

Marriage is a sweet experience; but where the “rules” are treated with insignificance, or were the man and woman chose not to play by the “rules,” it could just be a prolonged nightmare, so horrifying that it could  scare (and have been scaring) single ladies and guys away from it.

Here are a few tips (just 14, to avoid a long list) I have been able to gather in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage….

1. Commit your marriage into the hands of God. God knows the past, present and future of your relationship.

2. The immediate thing that happens after marriage is that “I” and “my” ceases to be a priority. “We” and “our” becomes a priority in all that you do.

3. As a matter of “MUST,” you have to adjust your relationship with your male friends and female friends, especially your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend (as the case may be), to reflect your new status.

4. Do unto your spouse as you would have him/her do unto you.

5. Generally, it is being said that men are the heads of the family. I agree. However, note that a good family head MUST be caring, considerate and supportive to the wife.

6. One big mistake a man can make is to insist on a master-servant relationship between himself and his wife.

7. Every spouse loves a humble spouse. Pride stinks !!! It is the single most powerful home-destroyer !!!

8. If a man wants to show that he has power, he should not show it on the wife, he should go and sign up with World Wrestling Federation 🙂

9. As much as you can, keep your marital problems away from outsiders.

10. Strive to be the best husband (or wife) in the world and the best father (or mum) in the world when you start having children.

11. The worst solution to any marital problem is a separation or divorce, especially where you have children.

12. Read my post on 15 wrong reasons to get married.

13. Tolerance, perseverance, understanding, endurance, patience, slow-to-anger and over-looking of trivial issues, are traits spouses MUST imbibe.

14. A 24-hour communication must exist between spouses. Talk to each other. Do not be a boring spouse. Do not make your spouse seek who to share her thoughts with from outside. Do not hide your grievances from each other. Do not bottle up your thoughts towards each other.

In most cases, marriages are what the spouses make them to be !

May the Lord bless us all with marital bliss 🙂

Thanks for your time 🙂

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Beware Of The Banana Peel…

Banana is a good fruit. It’s value to the body is enormous. However, if one accidentally steps on its peel, the instantaneous result could be really serious. The extent of seriousness too, cannot be predicted as it depends on how fast one “takes control of oneself” as soon as one steps on it. I have stepped on it before. It wasn’t a funny experience 🙂 So, I am probably talking from experience.

If you are a lover of banana, I am sorry to dissapoint you as my post is not all about bananas. “Banana peel” here, refers to any form of temptation which can lead to a down fall of a man after “stepping” (giving in) on it. This downfall knows no gender, race, economic or social status or age. The “banana peel” respects no one, not even a President of a country !!!

I got the strong urge to do this post, after watching a gospel film today, in which a notable Pastor “stepped on a banana peel.” He almost crash-landed if not for his instantaneous “self-control.” An ex-girlfriend of his suffaced from no where and almost tore his family and ministry into shreds. Luckily for him, he saw the “banana peel,” identified it as such, narrowly stepped on it and fought vigorously to prevent a “serious fall”

Sadly, unlike the Pastor, a lot of people today, some in very high places in business, govenment and the society, have come across the “banana peel” and refused to see it as such. The consequence was a GREAT FALL. Some, actually saw what looked like a “banana peel,” acted ignorantly, and then suffered a great fall. In both cases, a fall followed because they actually GAVE THEMSELVES over to the “banana peel.”

“Banana peels” usually come in very enticing forms. Why ? Because they are hard to resist. That is the where the problem really lies. Not being able to develop self control and discipline when these temptations comes is the reason behind the down fall of the victims. Of all the banana peels, the most powerful are money and sex !!! Related to money is material things. The love and the desire for these things is not the issue here, but the IMPATIENCE, GREED, LACK OF CONTENTMENT and COMPLETE DISREGARD FOR THE FEAR OF GOD that usually makes some people to go after them without self control and self discipline. This is where the the “fall” is likely !!!

So many people, including great men and women, have lost the respect, peace and status they once had. Some have even lost their lives, after taking a “glide” on the banana peel. Many more will definitely fall…..Why am I so sure? Well…because IMPATIENCE, GREED, LACK OF CONTENTMENT, COMPLETE DISREGARD FOR THE FEAR OF GOD will forever have “disciples” on earth 🙂

What do you think ?

But to you my friend, I say, beware of the banana peel !!!

Thanks for your time.

Food for thought: “Because I have called, and ye refused; I have stretched out my hand, and no man regarded; But ye have set at nought all my counsel, and would none of my reproof: I also will laugh at your calamity; I will mock when your fear cometh; When your fear cometh as desolation, and your destruction cometh as a whirlwind; when distress and anguish cometh upon you. Then shall they call upon me, but I will not answer; they shall seek me early, but they shall not find me: For that they hated knowledge, and did not choose the fear of the Lord: They would none of my counsel: they despised all my reproof. Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way..” (Prov 1:24-31)

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