The Full Time House Wife And The Working Class Wife

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A discussion with a family member this morning got me thinking….

I know this very wealthy family some years back. The man was a businessman while the wife was a full time house wife. I got to know later that the man refused to allow the work neither will he set up a business for her. He simply preferred her to be a full time house wife. In fact there was a joke that went round that he did not allow her to go out and work or run a business because of advances from men since she was very pretty. All entreaties from family, friends and the wife fell on deaf ears. And so, the man called the shots in the house 100%. The woman and children depended on the man 100% for all their needs. At a point, children were sent away from school when the man could not make funds transfer for the house keeping expenses and school fees.

Sadly, the man took ill and could not make it through. After the burial, the man’s family took over every reasonable property they could lay their hands on, living the woman to struggle for survival with her six children. Her life of comfort and glamour became a pitiable story. From her mansion she had to move into a very small house with her six children, courtesy of money she was able to raise from friends and her family. Her children had to be withdrawn from the very expensive private school to a public school. She had to start a small trading business to make ends meet.  You can imagine the rest of the story…

I also heard of this working class couple – the husband was a banker and the wife, a teacher in a private school. With their total income, they were able to plan the family well and live comfortably. The woman was a very useful to her husband, who did not have to be relied upon 100% for her personal and family needs. In addition to this, they both pooled funds together to set up boutique and a fashion house, both of which were doing very well and managed part time, by the wife.

Unfortunately, a mass sack affected the husband. He was jobless for thirteen months. Throughout this period, life continued as though nothing had happened. There was nothing to show that the man had lost his job. His savings, the wife’s job and businesses kept the family going comfortably.

Bottom line : In all that we do, the unknown future should be included in our decisions, considerations and plans. No one knows what the future holds. Only God does. As humans, we only hope and pray for the best.   

Thanks for your time.

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Keep Your Head Up….Breakthrough Lies Ahead

IMG_20131227_113138 (1)Have you ever found yourself in a very difficult situation, where you find yourself in deep thoughts enmeshed in hopelessness and a feeling that seems to scream “GIVE UP. IT’S NO USE?” As such times, it seems as if it is all over. You don’t seem to see any light at the end of the tunnel. It seems you are the worst sinner on earth who is probably suffering for his/her sins. In extreme cases, you may have thought of doing some nasty things. And as such times, all you feel like doing is to put you head down, with or without you hand providing support and soak yourself in a feat of worry. Well, if you have, you are not alone because I have found myself in similar situations a number of times 🙂

I do not know where I got it from – I have a “die-hard” kind of attitude. My son also has this “daddy I can do it” attitude 🙂 I always believe that I am very close to my goal…my target…a solution to my problems or an answer to a nagging question. I am always afraid that I may later discover, painfully, that an option or action I shunned was actually my joker. Even though it is natural to worry, I have discovered over time, that worrying itself, is a monster on its own, which can destroy one, if one is not very careful. Many cases of hypertension have been traced to worrying and mental stress. Doctors said my mother died of complications arising from hypertension. This occurred after the death of my dad. How sad.

As I speak, I have some underachieved targets in life. One fact no can take away from me is that every problem under heaven, has a solution. I only need to look for it. In looking for it, I have discovered that obstacles have one mission; and that is, to live up to the meaning of the word itself – to prevent me from reaching my goals. I have also discovered that ALL obstacles can, have been and will always be surmountable. So, rather that brood over problems, I have developed an attitude which makes me to constantly search for “bridges” that will take me to my targets, my goals, my sweet dream and my happiness 🙂  As I do this, I am not oblivious of the fact that I can NEVER make good success without GOD’s help. His words provide me loads of hope.

My journey through life has shown that a lot of people have achieved huge successes in their endeavous mainly because they stayed on…they refused to give up….they believed in themselves….they believed that success and overcoming challenges usually require staying focused and excessively determined to follow the paths that will lead to breakthroughs.

Success stories abound everywhere – in all sectors and in all strata of life. Aside from those who inherit success/wealth from parents or other sources, all success stories are similar – loads of hard work, determination, refusal to accept failure and always keeping heads up when failure or challenges force heads down in order to avoid worrying into permanent failure. This is the path I have “planted” myself. So, when trouble, failure, problems or challenges force my head down, I put it up again and again 🙂 We can see clearer, hear better and think better with our heads up.  It takes courage, resilience and guts to stare problems in the face and mutter  “it shall come to pass” as I am used to muttering.

In all of this, problems and challenges are determined to stay with us for as long as we unable to do the right things to eliminate them. So, let’s keep our heads up….fight problems and challenges……and we shall overcome, by the grace of God 🙂

God bless and direct us all, amen.

Thanks for your time 🙂

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Unwanted And Rejected Pregnancies: The Days After…

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There is this pastor. A very strong one at that. He is married, but does not have a child yet. Then suddenly, he falls for the persuasive powers of the devil. First, he impregnates the first daughter of the General Overseer of the church he pastors. Not done, he impregnates the second daughter. Still, seemingly unaware of the gimmicks of the devil, he impregnates a member of the church. In a bid to hide his atrocities, he takes the younger daughter for abortion. She dies in the process. The elder daughter, in a bid to remove the unwanted pregnancy, drinks a concoction given to her by her friends. Bad news…the womb is completely destroyed in the process and had to be removed. The parents of the girls get to know. Hell is let loose….

While he was still being ”burnt in hell,” the other church member tells the pastors wife about the pregnancy. By now I am sure you can imagine the rest of the story…..

In another case, a guy professes “love” to his girlfriend using all sorts of “sweet lies.” Just like all irresponsible guys, he had a mission. He accomplishes it and she gets pregnant. Then reality stares the girl in the face. What she taught was love was just similar to the gimmicks the serpent used to tempt Eve at the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3) and bring sin and suffering into the world. As expected, he rejects the pregnancy, becomes unfriendly, then very aggressive and asks the girl to go and abort the pregnancy. She does and dies in the process. The guy took to his heels and the family of the now deceased girl are thrown into sorrow and mourning.

There are so many of this kind of sad stories of deceit and wickedness ending on a very fatal note. Unwanted or rejected pregnancies are common in all societies. The major reason being the decay in moral standards caused, in part, by societal and peer pressure, modernization, parental failure, and the desire to do what every other person is doing.

Two things I noticed in all rejected or unwanted pregnancies that I know are, firstly, the worst hit is usually the girls/ladies. Secondly, such relationships ALWAYS start on a sweet note and continue like that until the “bad news” is announced – “I am pregnant!!!” I told my kid sister that NO MAN WILL EVER TELL YOU THINGS THAT WILL SCARE YOU AWAY!!! So, she should expect sweet and reassuring words like : “my life is incomplete without you”; you look so sweet“; “I love you so much”; “I can never hurt you”; “you won’t get pregnant”; “if you get pregnant I will marry you”…… In some cases, beneath those sweet and reassuring words is a mission. A mission similar to that of the devil at the Garden of Eden. A mission with sorrow and so much tears waiting to come to fruition.

If you ask me, caution, wisdom, continuous prayers and a lot of parental guidance can abort these missions. Parents have a lot to do to avert the impending doom. It’s very sad to know that some parents have shelved their responsibilities all in the name of modernization and making enough money for the family. One thing that has come to stay is the unrelenting and unrepenting global society that is not interested and does not care about what happens to our children. It’s more like a self-centered trend. But since we care (do we have a choice?), we have to guide our children, especially the girls in issues related to dating, sex and relationships. Outsiders will only guide them to their (outsider’s) own advantage. We cannot afford to be tired. We cannot afford to look away. We cannot afford to move with global trends that have tears and sorrow as the likely outcomes. The best and most trust-worthy teachers and counselor a child can have is the parents!

SAVE SOMEONE FROM UNWANTED/REJECTED PREGNANCY TODAY. This post is one of my own efforts.

Thanks for your time.

Food for thought….

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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Keep Your Head Up. You Will Soon Become A Mother/Father !!!

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Image ccourtesy of David Castillo Dominici/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I  got married in September 2007. By July 24, 2008, God, by His amazing grace, blessed me with a son. As an advocate of child-spacing, my second child, a lovely angelic princess of God’s Kingdom, arrived July last year.

My testimony is the type many couples would love to share after marriage. Sadly, for some, it is not so – months have turned into years, in an experience that only those who are going through it can really tell how it hurts.

Waiting on God for a child could really be a horrible experience, especially when months turns into years. It has destroyed a lot of marriages and has pushed a lot of couples, who, in their desperation, have ended up seeking help from ”man” who ”gave” them children that later turned out to be objects of pain, sorrow and regrets.

The society too, is not helpful. Childless couples, especially the women, are looked down upon and they are usually subjects of gossips. Parents of the couple, especially the husband, become restless and suggestive. The height of these apprehension is the suggestion by the parents of the man that he should take another wife. Interestingly, the mood is usually so disturbing that such suggestions come without actually finding out the cause of the problem.

I do not know why the inspiration to do this post became my priority today, because I already have 15 other topics on the queue which I have not yet had the time to develop. It is obvious there is somebody out there that GOD really wants to say KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. YOU WILL SOON BECOME A MOTHER/FATHER !!!

The good news is that I know of people who patiently, though painfully, waited on God for the fruit of the womb and are today very happy couples. Specifically, I know of three, ten and sixteen years of waiting that ended up in HALLELUJAHHH !!!   I also know of this very inspiring and interesting story in the Bible…..

“Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart,

Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old?

and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?” (Gen 17:17)

“Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, 

After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?

And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh,

saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old?

Is any thing too hard for the Lord?” (Gen 18:12-13)  

“And the Lord visited Sarah as he had said,

and the Lord did unto Sarah as he had spoken.

For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age,

at the set time of which God had spoken to him.” (Gen 21:1-2)

GOD IS STILL GOD !!! Have you been waiting on God for your own baby? Are you tired?  Just hold on…..a little while…..a little while…..keep praying…..keep praying…..keep putting Him in remembrance. KEEP YOUR  HEAD UP. YOU WILL CARRY YOUR BABY SOON, in the mighty name of Jesus, amen !!!!

In Our Daily Living, Caution, Wisdom And Prayers Have Become Indispensable

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“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

Fela Anikulapo Kuti, one of Nigeria’s foremost singers may have left this world, but his songs lives on. One of his evergreen songs done in pidgin English [a simplified English language very popular in Nigeria] goes thus :

If you dey follow follow, make you open eye…

One interpretation of this is, if you are following people to do the things that they are doing or the things they want you to do, you should do them with wisdom and caution and where necessary, refuse to do it (them). Sadly, for some people, this good advice is only heard and even sung, but the strong message in the song is often relegated to the background or to insignificance.

As Christians, our BIBLE should be our first and major guide. It provides answers to ALL questions about God and Jesus Christ. What we have to do is to read and read and read…

One of the things we have to be cautious and wise about is the revelation of our Lord Jesus…

False messiahs and false prophets will appear

and perform great signs and wonders to deceive,

if possible, even the elect. –(Matt 24:24)

Note..… “even the elect.” Further say, He counsels…

“Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep’s clothing,

but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.

You will know them by their fruits…” – (Matt 7:15-16)

There is nothing wrong in seeking help from a pastor (or someone else). However, GOD’s words, not Michael Monday’s, says we should “beware.” I refuse to act as if I am wiser than GOD. Thus, extreme caution, wisdom and prayers will keep us from ravenous wolves in sheep’s clothing. In desperation to get miracles, deliverance, prosperity or power(and much more), some people have shunned caution and wisdom and ended up with regrets or “complex webs of regrets.”

I do know that some people are specially anointed with the power of God; and sometimes, we need help from these servants of God who are stronger than us spiritually. But, as God’s word counsels, “beware…” and “…you will know them by their fruits…”

But do we really have to run after pastors for help all the time? Is it only pastors that God listens to? The answer is NO !!! I am a living witness to the awesome and fearsome power of GOD. I love God so much because He is one great being who does not look down on anyone. He listens and hears, irrespective of our social, economic or spiritual status. He simply says….

“but as many as received Him,

to them gave He power

to become the sons of GOD.” – (John 1:12)

As a child of GOD, you enjoy all the benefits including answers to your prayers. Dear friend, God truly answers prayers!!! But read this…

Truly, I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain

‘go, throw yourself into the sea’

and does not doubt in their heart

but beliefs that what they say will happen,

it will be done for them – (NIV Mark 11:23)

But even at that, GOD IS AWESOMELY MAGNANIMOUS !!!  Cast all your worries upon Him for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).  You are sure of no regrets, no tears and sorrow, no payments, no mistakes, no imperfection, no consequences, no deceits, no abuse, honesty, complete answers to your prayers, no “hidden charges” and the pure, awesome power, love, grace and mercies of the God of gods and the Lord of lords. Start praying, if you have not…TODAY !!!  I invite you to read my testimonies under my “Inspiration” category.

I pray for GOD’s guidance and wisdom in all that we do and may He always remind us to commit all that concerns us into His ever-reliable care, in Jesus name, amen.

Thanks for your time.

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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Flashback 4 : Wishing You … And I Family Bliss

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Hi Pals. I decided to dedicate my 4th flashback to “FAMILY PEACE.”

The most important community in the world is undoubtedly one’s family. After all the hustling and bustling that we go through everyday, the home provides the best place to unwind.

I have shared quite a few experience, tips and views on this very important topic and I hope you find them useful. If you have read them before, thanks a lot, and I wish you a happy and rewarding reading for a second time 🙂

Please click any of the posts below and savour my tiny contribution towards having and sustaining family bliss….

1. Parent-Child Relationship Gone Awry

2. Building A Strong Relationship With Your Child

3. Marriage Could Turn Out To Be A Nightmare If…

4. Handling Outsider Involvement In Marriages

5. A Humble Woman….

6. Pride Stinks !

7. That Comforter Of Yours Could Just Be A Home – Breaker !

Thanks for your time and wishing us all peace in our homes 🙂

Bloggers for peace

Today’s Children…

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Today’s children are products of a complex web of factors which includes society, family, technology, modernisation, school, peer influence, religion, government and the grace of God, among others. All of these factors exert a lot of pressure and influence on the child. What you actually see the child do is determined by which of these factors eventually have the greatest effect on the child.

As the owners of these children, PARENTS THEREFORE HAVE A LOT OF WORK ON THEIR SHOULDERS !!!

God help us !!!

Have a splendid Sunday 🙂