Flashback 4 : Wishing You … And I Family Bliss

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Hi Pals. I decided to dedicate my 4th flashback to “FAMILY PEACE.”

The most important community in the world is undoubtedly one’s family. After all the hustling and bustling that we go through everyday, the home provides the best place to unwind.

I have shared quite a few experience, tips and views on this very important topic and I hope you find them useful. If you have read them before, thanks a lot, and I wish you a happy and rewarding reading for a second time 🙂

Please click any of the posts below and savour my tiny contribution towards having and sustaining family bliss….

1. Parent-Child Relationship Gone Awry

2. Building A Strong Relationship With Your Child

3. Marriage Could Turn Out To Be A Nightmare If…

4. Handling Outsider Involvement In Marriages

5. A Humble Woman….

6. Pride Stinks !

7. That Comforter Of Yours Could Just Be A Home – Breaker !

Thanks for your time and wishing us all peace in our homes 🙂

Bloggers for peace

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Today’s Children…

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Today’s children are products of a complex web of factors which includes society, family, technology, modernisation, school, peer influence, religion, government and the grace of God, among others. All of these factors exert a lot of pressure and influence on the child. What you actually see the child do is determined by which of these factors eventually have the greatest effect on the child.

As the owners of these children, PARENTS THEREFORE HAVE A LOT OF WORK ON THEIR SHOULDERS !!!

God help us !!!

Have a splendid Sunday 🙂

Flash Back Series 2 : More Tips For The Parents…

Rc graduatn (1)“Flash back” is a recall of my past publications. It is dedicated to my new friends on WordPress who had missed out on them; and of course, to all my long-standing friends who have also missed out on them or would love to read these posts again. To date, I have 127 posts. This is quite a handful to sift through 🙂

In series 1, I brought you five posts dedicated to the patents. Today, I bring you another set of five posts, still dedicated to the parents. If you missed out on Series 1, please click here, to navigate to the posts.

Please find below another set of five posts (please check my “Mummy and Daddies” category for many other parenting-related posts) dedicated to all the wonderful caretakers of God’s children 🙂  Just click on the post of your choice below and have a rewarding reading…

1. Divorce : The Fate Of Children

2. Your career and your family…which one comes first?

3. Let’s Talk About Sex !!!

4. Impact Of Parental And Peer Influence On Career Decisions

5.  Papa Was Not A Rolling Stone

If you find my thoughts, views and info useful, please tell someone. I would really appreciate it if you can share yours with me and my other visitors. Thanks a lot 🙂

…..thanks for stopping by 🙂

Watch out for Flash Back Series 3

A Little Kindness Can Go A Very Long Way…

kindnessA  poor boy who was begging from door to door to feed his hungry stomach, decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his confidence when a lovely young girl opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a glass of water .

The girl saw that he looked hungry. So she brought him a large glass of  milk . He drank it slowly and asked thereafter “how much do I owe you?” “You don’t owe me  anything” she replied. “Mother has told us never to accept paymemt for kindness.” Then he said , “then I thank you from the bottom of my heart.”

Years later, that girl (now a woman) became critically ill and the local doctors tried their possible best to save her life but they couldn’t cure her. They finally sent her to the big city where specialist studied her rare illness. Dr Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town where she came from, a strange light filled his eyes immediately. He rose and went down to her room. He recognised her at once. He went back to the consultation room, determined to do his best to save her life.

From that day, he gave special attention to the case. After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it , then wrote something on the bill and it was sent to her room.

The woman feared opening it because she was sure it might take the rest of her life savings to pay for it. Finally she looked and noticed something was written at the edge of the note : “paid in full with a glass of milk.” Tears filled her eyes as she immediately remembered.

Every form of kindness we show is never in vain. It reproduces itself. Sometimes, it may not necessarily be before our eyes, but it always does.

I have been kind to you by sharing this story. It is good to be kind. Put a smile on someone’s face today by sharing the story.

GOD bless us all.

 

All That Glitters Is Not Gold…

Collins is a very hard-working young man in his early thirties. He had a job which can be described as a good one in terms of the major parameters for assessing a job – good salary, prospects for growth, good welfare schemes among others. In search of greener pastures, he resigned from his job for another because of the mouth-watering offers that came with the new job – a car, better salary, foreign training and accommodation among others. Not too long after resumption, he gets to discover that there were some things about the new job which were not revealed to him – most of which would have made him turn down the job if he was told from the onset. But sadly, it was too late to go back to his former job. What followed can be described as a nightmare !

Jennifer is a very pretty lady. She has everything going for her – good job, a good family background and a good education. Then came John, an equally handsome young man with a good job too. John was a smooth talker who would make any girl to fall for him. John appeared like a saint. He had money to spend and give Jenifer a good time. His charming looks complimented his “good looking purse.” It was not too long that Jennifer realised that John was not just a married man, but had five children from three women. She also got to know that John was a drug Lord who was playing a hide and seek game with the cops !

Edwin, is a handsome and well-nurtured young man in his thirties.  With a good job and good looks, he had always believed that he could have any lady at his beck and call. He had a very humble and well-mannered lady for a fiancee. Even though she was not too pretty, she was the kind of lady a man would want to have as a life-time partner – humble, peaceful, respectful, hardworking, loving, caring, submissive and what have you. Two months to their wedding day, Edwin dropped a bomb – he could not go ahead with the planned wedding !!! Soon, it was discovered that the reason behind his action was because of a fair skinned beautiful lady that he had been dating for months. However, Edwin got the greatest shock of life when he got to know that the lady he had been having an affair with, and who was two months pregnant for him, was actually his step-sister whom his father abandoned from birth, together with her mother without the knowledge of Edwin’s mother !

McDonald, is a promising Nigerian Painter.  He is happily married with two kids. He gave his family a good life with  his business, with the support of his hard-working wife. Soon, his friend convinced him into taking taking part in a deal that would have fetched them a lot of money running into millions of Naira (Nigerian currency). McDonald fell for it. Things went messy. They were picked up by the police. McDonald and his friend are serving jail sentences. His family is in a very bad situation !

The United States of America is a beautiful country with the good things of life reasonably available for majority of her citizens and residents. This lured Tunde, a Nigerian, who was doing very well in his trading business – a good home, a car and a good bank account – to abandon his country with documents whose authenticity was in doubt. He was convinced by his friend that all his papers would be formalised when they get to the USA. With his eyes and mind on the USA, Tunde beat all the odds and got to America with his friend. Not too long after they arrived Tunde became a fugitive – always on the run from the cops for having fake travelling papers. After, two years of hiding in very odd places, Tunde was finally arrested and deported – to start life all over again in Nigeria !

Good things are good. They are desired by all, including my humble self.  But in desiring for them, wisdom, reasoning, and of course, prayers is needed. Collins, Jennifer, McDonald, Tunde and Edwin have one thing in common – they leaped before looking; or should I say they refused to look before leaping because they were convinced that all that glitters is gold !!!

A word is enough for the wise. Wishing you and me a regret-free weekend 🙂

 

 

 

Best Wishes To One Of The Greatest Leaders On Earth….NELSON “Madiba” MANDELA

“I have fought against white domination, and I have fought

against black domination. I have cherished the ideal of a democratic

and free society in which all persons will live together in harmony

with equal opportunities. It is an ideal which I hope to live for, and to

see realised. But my Lord, if needs be, it is an ideal for which I

am prepared to die.” – Nelson Mandela (1964)

God bless and care for you more Madiba. God bless your family too for the sacrifice they have been through in your days of struggle for equity and justice for your people, and by extension, the people of the world.

I hope that some day, and I hope it won’t be too long, that leaders across the world will learn from your service to mankind.

I join the people of the world to wish you God’s health and best wishes 🙂

GET WELL QUICK…..Madiba….

Marriage Could Turn Out To Be A Nightmare If…

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Last Sunday, I received a phone call from an acquaintance who wanted me to intervene in a marital squabble with her husband. Incidentally, I have lost count of the number of times I have been invited to intervene in their quarrels. Sincerely, I do not like having direct involvements in marital affairs, just like I don’t like people involving themselves in mine. I prefer a medium such as what I am doing now, to do that.
What really annoyed me most was that, as in the past, what caused the quarrel was so minor as to make the husband throw out her things and ask her to go back to her family. I was so upset. Sadly, their seven months old baby was caught in the middle of what I chose to call “immaturity in marriage.”

By the grace of God, my marriage will be six years old in September this year. Glory to God 🙂 I can never claim to have a perfect marriage to be a “marriage counselor.” But sincerely, I have learnt a lot in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage, to be able to share a few tips, targeted, mainly to those who are planning to get married some day in the near future. However, if you are married, going through my tips will certainly be rewarding.

Marriage is a sweet experience; but where the “rules” are treated with insignificance, or were the man and woman chose not to play by the “rules,” it could just be a prolonged nightmare, so horrifying that it could  scare (and have been scaring) single ladies and guys away from it.

Here are a few tips (just 14, to avoid a long list) I have been able to gather in this one-of-a-kind “school” called marriage….

1. Commit your marriage into the hands of God. God knows the past, present and future of your relationship.

2. The immediate thing that happens after marriage is that “I” and “my” ceases to be a priority. “We” and “our” becomes a priority in all that you do.

3. As a matter of “MUST,” you have to adjust your relationship with your male friends and female friends, especially your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend (as the case may be), to reflect your new status.

4. Do unto your spouse as you would have him/her do unto you.

5. Generally, it is being said that men are the heads of the family. I agree. However, note that a good family head MUST be caring, considerate and supportive to the wife.

6. One big mistake a man can make is to insist on a master-servant relationship between himself and his wife.

7. Every spouse loves a humble spouse. Pride stinks !!! It is the single most powerful home-destroyer !!!

8. If a man wants to show that he has power, he should not show it on the wife, he should go and sign up with World Wrestling Federation 🙂

9. As much as you can, keep your marital problems away from outsiders.

10. Strive to be the best husband (or wife) in the world and the best father (or mum) in the world when you start having children.

11. The worst solution to any marital problem is a separation or divorce, especially where you have children.

12. Read my post on 15 wrong reasons to get married.

13. Tolerance, perseverance, understanding, endurance, patience, slow-to-anger and over-looking of trivial issues, are traits spouses MUST imbibe.

14. A 24-hour communication must exist between spouses. Talk to each other. Do not be a boring spouse. Do not make your spouse seek who to share her thoughts with from outside. Do not hide your grievances from each other. Do not bottle up your thoughts towards each other.

In most cases, marriages are what the spouses make them to be !

May the Lord bless us all with marital bliss 🙂

Thanks for your time 🙂

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