The Full Time House Wife And The Working Class Wife

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A discussion with a family member this morning got me thinking….

I know this very wealthy family some years back. The man was a businessman while the wife was a full time house wife. I got to know later that the man refused to allow the work neither will he set up a business for her. He simply preferred her to be a full time house wife. In fact there was a joke that went round that he did not allow her to go out and work or run a business because of advances from men since she was very pretty. All entreaties from family, friends and the wife fell on deaf ears. And so, the man called the shots in the house 100%. The woman and children depended on the man 100% for all their needs. At a point, children were sent away from school when the man could not make funds transfer for the house keeping expenses and school fees.

Sadly, the man took ill and could not make it through. After the burial, the man’s family took over every reasonable property they could lay their hands on, living the woman to struggle for survival with her six children. Her life of comfort and glamour became a pitiable story. From her mansion she had to move into a very small house with her six children, courtesy of money she was able to raise from friends and her family. Her children had to be withdrawn from the very expensive private school to a public school. She had to start a small trading business to make ends meet.  You can imagine the rest of the story…

I also heard of this working class couple – the husband was a banker and the wife, a teacher in a private school. With their total income, they were able to plan the family well and live comfortably. The woman was a very useful to her husband, who did not have to be relied upon 100% for her personal and family needs. In addition to this, they both pooled funds together to set up boutique and a fashion house, both of which were doing very well and managed part time, by the wife.

Unfortunately, a mass sack affected the husband. He was jobless for thirteen months. Throughout this period, life continued as though nothing had happened. There was nothing to show that the man had lost his job. His savings, the wife’s job and businesses kept the family going comfortably.

Bottom line : In all that we do, the unknown future should be included in our decisions, considerations and plans. No one knows what the future holds. Only God does. As humans, we only hope and pray for the best.   

Thanks for your time.

Be Thankful

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My mates are getting married.
My mates are getting good jobs.
My mates are succeeding.
My mates are living overseas.
My mates are buying cars.
My mates are building houses.
My mates are this……my mates are that……

It is a pity you literally forgot about your mates in the mortuary, your mates in the psychiatric homes, your mates that are roaming the streets, your mates that are jobless, hungry, blind, deaf……….

Be thankful.

Only 46 days is left and we would be saying bye bye to 2013. Some slept yesterday and didn’t wake up today. We’re sinners but GOD has been showing us mercy. God still has plans for you and I before the year ends. Some people are in jail without committing any crime, but you are reading my post via a computer or smartphone. That means your senses are intact. You ate last night but some didn’t or couldn’t. You and I are not alive because we are faithful or because we have never sinned before, but it is the MERCY and GRACE of God that has kept us alive.

INDEED GOD LOVES YOU.

Be thankful…..

“Vengeance Is Mine…” Saith The Lord

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Have you ever been hurt, cheated or oppressed by someone older, more privileged or superior to you in position…and you feel like fighting back…or you feel like holding and strangulating the person or doing something evil to him/her? If yes, then you are not alone on this.

A number of times, I have had to deal with this acts of wickedness and man’s inhumanity to man. I do not know how you handled or used to handle such ungodly and arrogant display of power. For me, I have learnt from experience, that the best approach was to “fight back” with a power that CANNOT be subdued…a power that is above EVERY other power…a power that sent a “Goliath” down to the ground after so much boasting and arrogance (1 Sam 17)…a power that turned lions into friends of a child of God (Daniel 6)…a power that slaughtered thousands of Egyptians without a fight (Exodus 14)…a power that split the mighty red sea into two without any physical contact(Exodus 14) ….a power that brought down a mighty wall with just singing (Joshua 6)….a power that made a ninety year old woman to become a mother (Gen 21)…a power that did all I have shared on my blog including keeping the heart of my younger brother beating without blood in his body for days !!! That power is the unfailing, fearsome and superior POWER OF GOD through PRAYERS!!!

Prayer works dear friend. Man will forever think and act like one. God knows everything and everyone better. He knows the best approach to handle every oppression and acts of wickedness. He does not make mistakes. He knows our oppressors more than we do. There are no regrets whenever He is involved in our affairs.

So, rather than pay evil for evil or fight a fight you do not know how it would end or which you may not be able to win….report the matter to GOD in prayer and fasting. God has a beautiful way of humbling those who chose to ignore the fact that power comes from God (Psda 75:6-7). He knows the best “punishnent” your oppressor deserves.

So, go to Him in fasting and prayers. Safe yourself the stress of crying and being in sorrow. Safe yourself from wasting energy…..

“So Judah gathered together to seek help from the LORD;

they even came from all the cities of Judah to seek the LORD….

Thus says the Lord to you, “Do not fear or be dismayed because of this great multitude,

for the battle is not yours but God’s   

– 2 Chronicles 20:15

For the Lord Himself has said…..

“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves,

but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written,

Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.

– Romans 12:19

And……

“He(Goliath) said to David, “Come here. I’ll feed your body to the birds of the air and the wild animals!” 

But David said to him, “You come to me using a sword and two spears.

But I come to you in the name of the Lord All-Powerful,

the God of the armies of Israel! You have spoken against him….

So David defeated the Philistine with only a sling and a stone.

– 1 Sam 17

May the hand of God continue to guide us in all our decision making in Jesus name, amen !

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Unwanted And Rejected Pregnancies: The Days After…

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There is this pastor. A very strong one at that. He is married, but does not have a child yet. Then suddenly, he falls for the persuasive powers of the devil. First, he impregnates the first daughter of the General Overseer of the church he pastors. Not done, he impregnates the second daughter. Still, seemingly unaware of the gimmicks of the devil, he impregnates a member of the church. In a bid to hide his atrocities, he takes the younger daughter for abortion. She dies in the process. The elder daughter, in a bid to remove the unwanted pregnancy, drinks a concoction given to her by her friends. Bad news…the womb is completely destroyed in the process and had to be removed. The parents of the girls get to know. Hell is let loose….

While he was still being ”burnt in hell,” the other church member tells the pastors wife about the pregnancy. By now I am sure you can imagine the rest of the story…..

In another case, a guy professes “love” to his girlfriend using all sorts of “sweet lies.” Just like all irresponsible guys, he had a mission. He accomplishes it and she gets pregnant. Then reality stares the girl in the face. What she taught was love was just similar to the gimmicks the serpent used to tempt Eve at the Garden of Eden (Genesis 3) and bring sin and suffering into the world. As expected, he rejects the pregnancy, becomes unfriendly, then very aggressive and asks the girl to go and abort the pregnancy. She does and dies in the process. The guy took to his heels and the family of the now deceased girl are thrown into sorrow and mourning.

There are so many of this kind of sad stories of deceit and wickedness ending on a very fatal note. Unwanted or rejected pregnancies are common in all societies. The major reason being the decay in moral standards caused, in part, by societal and peer pressure, modernization, parental failure, and the desire to do what every other person is doing.

Two things I noticed in all rejected or unwanted pregnancies that I know are, firstly, the worst hit is usually the girls/ladies. Secondly, such relationships ALWAYS start on a sweet note and continue like that until the “bad news” is announced – “I am pregnant!!!” I told my kid sister that NO MAN WILL EVER TELL YOU THINGS THAT WILL SCARE YOU AWAY!!! So, she should expect sweet and reassuring words like : “my life is incomplete without you”; you look so sweet“; “I love you so much”; “I can never hurt you”; “you won’t get pregnant”; “if you get pregnant I will marry you”…… In some cases, beneath those sweet and reassuring words is a mission. A mission similar to that of the devil at the Garden of Eden. A mission with sorrow and so much tears waiting to come to fruition.

If you ask me, caution, wisdom, continuous prayers and a lot of parental guidance can abort these missions. Parents have a lot to do to avert the impending doom. It’s very sad to know that some parents have shelved their responsibilities all in the name of modernization and making enough money for the family. One thing that has come to stay is the unrelenting and unrepenting global society that is not interested and does not care about what happens to our children. It’s more like a self-centered trend. But since we care (do we have a choice?), we have to guide our children, especially the girls in issues related to dating, sex and relationships. Outsiders will only guide them to their (outsider’s) own advantage. We cannot afford to be tired. We cannot afford to look away. We cannot afford to move with global trends that have tears and sorrow as the likely outcomes. The best and most trust-worthy teachers and counselor a child can have is the parents!

SAVE SOMEONE FROM UNWANTED/REJECTED PREGNANCY TODAY. This post is one of my own efforts.

Thanks for your time.

Food for thought….

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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Keep Your Head Up. You Will Soon Become A Mother/Father !!!

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Image ccourtesy of David Castillo Dominici/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

I  got married in September 2007. By July 24, 2008, God, by His amazing grace, blessed me with a son. As an advocate of child-spacing, my second child, a lovely angelic princess of God’s Kingdom, arrived July last year.

My testimony is the type many couples would love to share after marriage. Sadly, for some, it is not so – months have turned into years, in an experience that only those who are going through it can really tell how it hurts.

Waiting on God for a child could really be a horrible experience, especially when months turns into years. It has destroyed a lot of marriages and has pushed a lot of couples, who, in their desperation, have ended up seeking help from ”man” who ”gave” them children that later turned out to be objects of pain, sorrow and regrets.

The society too, is not helpful. Childless couples, especially the women, are looked down upon and they are usually subjects of gossips. Parents of the couple, especially the husband, become restless and suggestive. The height of these apprehension is the suggestion by the parents of the man that he should take another wife. Interestingly, the mood is usually so disturbing that such suggestions come without actually finding out the cause of the problem.

I do not know why the inspiration to do this post became my priority today, because I already have 15 other topics on the queue which I have not yet had the time to develop. It is obvious there is somebody out there that GOD really wants to say KEEP YOUR HEAD UP. YOU WILL SOON BECOME A MOTHER/FATHER !!!

The good news is that I know of people who patiently, though painfully, waited on God for the fruit of the womb and are today very happy couples. Specifically, I know of three, ten and sixteen years of waiting that ended up in HALLELUJAHHH !!!   I also know of this very inspiring and interesting story in the Bible…..

“Then Abraham fell upon his face, and laughed, and said in his heart,

Shall a child be born unto him that is an hundred years old?

and shall Sarah, that is ninety years old, bear?” (Gen 17:17)

“Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, 

After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?

And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh,

saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old?

Is any thing too hard for the Lord?” (Gen 18:12-13)  

“And the Lord visited Sarah as he had said,

and the Lord did unto Sarah as he had spoken.

For Sarah conceived, and bare Abraham a son in his old age,

at the set time of which God had spoken to him.” (Gen 21:1-2)

GOD IS STILL GOD !!! Have you been waiting on God for your own baby? Are you tired?  Just hold on…..a little while…..a little while…..keep praying…..keep praying…..keep putting Him in remembrance. KEEP YOUR  HEAD UP. YOU WILL CARRY YOUR BABY SOON, in the mighty name of Jesus, amen !!!!

In Our Daily Living, Caution, Wisdom And Prayers Have Become Indispensable

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“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

Fela Anikulapo Kuti, one of Nigeria’s foremost singers may have left this world, but his songs lives on. One of his evergreen songs done in pidgin English [a simplified English language very popular in Nigeria] goes thus :

If you dey follow follow, make you open eye…

One interpretation of this is, if you are following people to do the things that they are doing or the things they want you to do, you should do them with wisdom and caution and where necessary, refuse to do it (them). Sadly, for some people, this good advice is only heard and even sung, but the strong message in the song is often relegated to the background or to insignificance.

As Christians, our BIBLE should be our first and major guide. It provides answers to ALL questions about God and Jesus Christ. What we have to do is to read and read and read…

One of the things we have to be cautious and wise about is the revelation of our Lord Jesus…

False messiahs and false prophets will appear

and perform great signs and wonders to deceive,

if possible, even the elect. –(Matt 24:24)

Note..… “even the elect.” Further say, He counsels…

“Beware of false prophets who come to you in sheep’s clothing,

but inwardly they are ravenous wolves.

You will know them by their fruits…” – (Matt 7:15-16)

There is nothing wrong in seeking help from a pastor (or someone else). However, GOD’s words, not Michael Monday’s, says we should “beware.” I refuse to act as if I am wiser than GOD. Thus, extreme caution, wisdom and prayers will keep us from ravenous wolves in sheep’s clothing. In desperation to get miracles, deliverance, prosperity or power(and much more), some people have shunned caution and wisdom and ended up with regrets or “complex webs of regrets.”

I do know that some people are specially anointed with the power of God; and sometimes, we need help from these servants of God who are stronger than us spiritually. But, as God’s word counsels, “beware…” and “…you will know them by their fruits…”

But do we really have to run after pastors for help all the time? Is it only pastors that God listens to? The answer is NO !!! I am a living witness to the awesome and fearsome power of GOD. I love God so much because He is one great being who does not look down on anyone. He listens and hears, irrespective of our social, economic or spiritual status. He simply says….

“but as many as received Him,

to them gave He power

to become the sons of GOD.” – (John 1:12)

As a child of GOD, you enjoy all the benefits including answers to your prayers. Dear friend, God truly answers prayers!!! But read this…

Truly, I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain

‘go, throw yourself into the sea’

and does not doubt in their heart

but beliefs that what they say will happen,

it will be done for them – (NIV Mark 11:23)

But even at that, GOD IS AWESOMELY MAGNANIMOUS !!!  Cast all your worries upon Him for He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7).  You are sure of no regrets, no tears and sorrow, no payments, no mistakes, no imperfection, no consequences, no deceits, no abuse, honesty, complete answers to your prayers, no “hidden charges” and the pure, awesome power, love, grace and mercies of the God of gods and the Lord of lords. Start praying, if you have not…TODAY !!!  I invite you to read my testimonies under my “Inspiration” category.

I pray for GOD’s guidance and wisdom in all that we do and may He always remind us to commit all that concerns us into His ever-reliable care, in Jesus name, amen.

Thanks for your time.

“Nothing in the world is more dangerous

than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity”

– Martin Luther King Jr

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God does not answer prayers!!!???

Flash back 5 : The make or mar abilities of “POWER”

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Madiba…so much to learn from him.       Image source:wikipedia.org

My favourite TV stations are international news stations like CNN, BBC AND CCTV News. I love these stations because they keep me abreast with developments across the world. Sadly, these stations, unavoidably, report to much of very sad developments across the world, particularly, the shedding of innocent blood, the latest being what is being suspected to be a chemical weapons attack in Syria.

Not too long ago, my younger brother’s employer could not pay salaries for upwards of two months. The CEO was being accused of misappropriating funds. I saw a similar scenario on my way to work where employees of a financial institution staged a protest against their boss over similar allegations.

Flash back 5 is therefore a collection of five posts dedicated to everyone in authority who therefore has the powers or authority to oversee the affairs of people and resources – whether in the private or public sector.

Please allow me share my thoughts with you by just clicking and reading the posts below 🙂

I hope my message travels far….

1. The transient nature of power

2. Decision Making : The Most Sensitive And Far-Reaching Function Of A Manager

3. The Amazing Grace Of God

4. Promotion Comes From God…Not Man !

5. The power in a name

Please help me spread the words of wisdom….

Thanks for your time and God bless you 🙂

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