Your Career And Your Family … Which One Comes First ?

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He’s fifteen. At that tender age, he has already assumed the huge responsibility of being a mother and a father to three kids. He bathes, feeds, takes care of them and takes them to school. He also teaches them “what he knows.”

Before you begin to wonder if he is an hermaphrodite, let me quickly tell you that this little father-mother is just a house help !!!
This is a real life story and not fiction. Similar stories are found everywhere, except in my home 🙂 There is one bad thing about making money – it makes you forget that there are some things it cannot buy. A child from a very wealthy home once said to me out of frustration, “I have everything, except parental love.” Her parents are never around. They leave very early for work and come back very late at night. Even when they are around, it’s still work-work-work !!! For her, everything she knows comes from outsiders. Mummy or daddy have no time to teach her anything. Fun? That it is a different issue entirely – no outings as a family, no sitting down and watching TV together, no parent-child playing together and no sign of having parents !
Between couples, the inability of  a man or woman to maintain a good balance between work and the family has led to strained relationships/marriages and divorce in extreme cases. Some cases of staying out late into the nights, eating out  and adultery are also traceable to the inability to strike a balance between giving your career the best attention it deserves and at the same time, not making one’s family to be deprived of care, love, and attention. Hey! Where ever we go, we still need to go back home. So, it is compulsory that  in all that we do, the home front has to be given a well-deserved attention.
A man’s regular presence in the house cannot be over emphasised. His presence provides a psychological security for his family, plays a major role in discipline, reduces or eliminates the tendency towards adultery, reduces the tendency for the children to “learn” from outside the family and keeps the family bond strong. It also teaches the male children how to be a good family man in future. This, I learnt from my late dad 🙂 For me, the best thing about closing time at work is that not too long I would be with my family. It is the best place to unwind after a hard day’s work 🙂 Even when I have to go and unwind after work, I go with my lovely family, who would not even spare my phone lines as soon as it is time for me to be at home, and I am not there.
My late mum’s friend’s marriage almost hit the rocks when the lady resigned from the public service for a very lucrative bank job. The huge salary she got replaced the happy family she once had. Having a good time with her family stopped. Cooking for the family stopped. Playing with the children stopped. Having time for her husband stopped. In fact, the female house help “took over” the house. She was lucky the maid did not take over her husband too 🙂 When she noticed that her marriage and family were heading towards a collapse, she had to make a quick and hard decision – her career or her family? She chose her family !!!
Which one would you have chosen? 🙂
Thanks for you time

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In my last post on teenage pregnancy, I wrote about a teenager who was “reaping” the consequences of teenage pregnancy. I did promise to look at the topic again as I strongly felt that there were still other issues to be looked into on the topic.

I was not really prepared to write, as I needed a strong inspiration to do so. This eventually came a few days ago.

I felt really sad when I over heard a guy telling his friends how he slept with a “cheap girl” several times and the girl still wanted more. Apparently, there was no prior relationship between the two. He simply met her somewhere and convinced her to follow him home, As he narrated his “use and dump” story, his friends had a good laugh. Like a sheep destined to be “slaughtered” the “victim” came around again while I was still close by. The guy’s body language clearly showed that it was the same girl that came around. Unknown to her, she was just another victim of “use, dump, re-use and dump…!!!”

This sad story accounts for majority of the teenage pregnancies that we have today. A situation where it takes very little effort to convince a girl to “open her legs,” apart from being very appalling, makes the large number of cases of teen pregnancies, inevitable.

I may not be a saint, but I think that one of the most degrading characters a teenage girl (other ages are not exempted) can have is the tendency to turn herself into a “public convenience” where every guy is invited. It’s really a pathetic sight to watch guys share their sexual experience with a particular girl. Some girls find it so hard to say “no.” Often times, financial inducement is not necessary. In some cases, a guy’s smile is enough, to put a girl on bed. Such girls can sleep with every guy that is willing. How pathetic ! How shameless !!!

The common and inevitable aftermath of all these is unwanted pregnancies, denied pregnancies, abortions, damaged wombs, complete collapse of self control, getting and “distribution” of sexually transmitted diseases, especially HIV/AIDS and sometimes death !!!

Food for thought : What kind of wives would such girls later become. I feel really sorry for good guys who would eventually marry such loose and unprincipled girls, who would definately do everything possible to cover up their strong penchant for promiscuity. But can a woman hide childlessness? It is a settled fact that some cases of childlessness in marriages are traceable to abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and some “prevention” drugs – all of which characterised the pre-marriage days of the affected women !!!

So, girls…Zip up !!!

A word is enough for the wise.

Thanks for your time.

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