Train Up A Child In The Way That He should Go…

Growing up for me was pretty tough. I (with my siblings) was brought up by parents who believed so much in the fact that “he that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him…”(Prov 13:24)

After working with children for more than 14 years, I have come to realise that indeed, as a parent, true love to a child was not all about giving a child the best material things in life, but actually giving a child the best home training, which is actually an “insurance policy” against headaches and heart aches for both the child and the parents in future. Good home training have also been discovered, without a doubt, to be much more durable than material things.

Two weeks ago, I was opportune to be part of an interview panel that interviewed a number of boys and girls who were seeking admission into a secondary school. One of the kids who came before me was an adorable ten year old boy who displayed the same traits like his siblings who were already in that school, namely, humility, respect, very good line of thought and reasoning and above all, his knowledge of God. I know a child who is acting up when I see one. This boy, like his siblings, was simply who he was portraying – a very good boy from a very good home where proper home training seemed to be a top priority.

On the flip side, it is very interesting to hear of mothers who do not allow their daughters to enter the kitchen – all in the name of being rich enough  to afford the services of house helps. What about some parents who encourage their kids to disrespect everybody. They have so deeply sown the seed of pride in their kids that they see everybody else as people that should not be treated with respect. Some years ago, a twelve year old girl( or there about), told me how she used to curse and kick their house help, who was even older than her mother – all to the knowledge of her parents !!!

Interestingly, some children who are engaged in indecent dressing do so on the full approval of the parents. Without a doubt, some of these clothes are bought for them by their parents !!! For boys who sag, I refuse to believe that most of the parents whose kids sag, are not aware of it. Not only this, with the parents “consent,” children freely use foul language, disregard hard work, keep bad peer groups … and completely relegate God to insignificance.

The word of God further says : “train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.” (Prov 22:6). Experience has proved, beyond all reasonable doubt, that the relegation of this beautiful Bible verse to insignificance, is a major factor behind most of the problems we have today in families, schools, society and globally.

So, while it is still possible, let u’s train up our children in the way that they should go…

Thanks for your time.

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God Does Not Answer Prayers !!!???

church_-_Prayer[1]I have heard (and read) people say God does not answer prayers. This position could be as a result of praying for a long time without results or because of an unpleasant event that happened to them or someone else. This dwindles or completely erodes their faith in God and the conclusion is that “God Does Not Answer Prayers!” The aftermath is to seek alternative man-made gods, often times, leading to tales of sorrow and regret.

With my little knowledge and experience, I have put together what I think could be the problem. So, slowly, please read and reflect on these likely causes. I am sure some doubts and beliefs would be cleared. If you know anyone who shares in the belief that God does not answer prayers, please do me the favour of referring the person to this post. Please read on…..

Sin creates barriers between prayers and God…

“Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save; neither his ear heavy, that it cannot hear: But your iniquities have separated between you and your God, and your sins have hid his face from you, that he will not hear.” (Isaiah 59:1-2)

Sometimes, in our own interest, God does not approve of our requests….

“There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.” (Prov 14:12)

You have not been showing gratitude to God by telling people of His awesome goodness to you….

“Share your testimonies! As long as you keep it to yourself, you deny many people of their blessings and you will be held responsible someday. One reason God did what He did in your life is so that your testimony can trigger that of others. How are you utilizing this powerful tool?” (Pastor E.A. Adeboye, General Overseer, RCCG)

Not caring to thank God after He has granted your request(s)….

Jesus asked, “Were not all ten cleansed? Where are the other nine? Was no one found to return and give praise to God except this foreigner?” Then he said to him, “Rise and go; your faith has made you well.” (Luke 17:17-19)

Fear reduces the quality of your prayers….

“And Moses said unto the people, Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the Lord, which he will shew to you to day: for the Egyptians whom ye have seen to day, ye shall see them again no more for ever.” (Exodus 14:13)

Sometimes people depend on worldly things even after prayers…..

“And all this assembly shall know that the Lord saveth not with sword and spear…” (1 Sam 17:47)

“No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” (Matt 4:24)

 Lack of faith is a serious barrier to praying with results….

“Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, After I am waxed old shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also? And the Lord said unto Abraham, Wherefore did Sarah laugh, saying, Shall I of a surety bear a child, which am old? Is any thing too hard for the Lord?” (Gen 18:12-13)

So my friend, God still answers prayers. Yes He does. I am a living witness. So many other people can attest to this fact. I belief you are one of them too. God is not wicked. He means well for us. So, if God is not answering your prayers or the prayers of someone you know, it could just be one of the reasons above and not that He has lost His potency or that any other power is greater than Him, for He says :   “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” (Jere 29:11).

So, we have to continue praying until something happens….

“Pray without ceasing.” (1 Thess 5:17)

God bless us all.

Thanks for your time.

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Wishing You A Blissful Sunday

Hello my friends. Thanks for visiting my blog today. I really appreciate you.

It’s a new day; a new week; a new beginning  Let’s thank Almighty God for the gift of life, new grace and new favour. Let’s praise His name for new prosperity and new blessings coming our way. With men it is impossible; but with God, all things are possible. Let’s trust that God is working behind the scenes on our behalf. His plans are to prosper us and give us a future and a fresh hope of breakthroughs.

Lord, thank You for Your goodness and favour in our life. As we set our mind and heart on You this day and beyond, may we see Your goodness, mercy, favour and grace in all our endeavours. It’s well with us and our household.

Happy Sunday to you all my friends and do have a blissful one.

 

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Your Career And Your Family … Which One Comes First ?

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He’s fifteen. At that tender age, he has already assumed the huge responsibility of being a mother and a father to three kids. He bathes, feeds, takes care of them and takes them to school. He also teaches them “what he knows.”

Before you begin to wonder if he is an hermaphrodite, let me quickly tell you that this little father-mother is just a house help !!!
This is a real life story and not fiction. Similar stories are found everywhere, except in my home 🙂 There is one bad thing about making money – it makes you forget that there are some things it cannot buy. A child from a very wealthy home once said to me out of frustration, “I have everything, except parental love.” Her parents are never around. They leave very early for work and come back very late at night. Even when they are around, it’s still work-work-work !!! For her, everything she knows comes from outsiders. Mummy or daddy have no time to teach her anything. Fun? That it is a different issue entirely – no outings as a family, no sitting down and watching TV together, no parent-child playing together and no sign of having parents !
Between couples, the inability of  a man or woman to maintain a good balance between work and the family has led to strained relationships/marriages and divorce in extreme cases. Some cases of staying out late into the nights, eating out  and adultery are also traceable to the inability to strike a balance between giving your career the best attention it deserves and at the same time, not making one’s family to be deprived of care, love, and attention. Hey! Where ever we go, we still need to go back home. So, it is compulsory that  in all that we do, the home front has to be given a well-deserved attention.
A man’s regular presence in the house cannot be over emphasised. His presence provides a psychological security for his family, plays a major role in discipline, reduces or eliminates the tendency towards adultery, reduces the tendency for the children to “learn” from outside the family and keeps the family bond strong. It also teaches the male children how to be a good family man in future. This, I learnt from my late dad 🙂 For me, the best thing about closing time at work is that not too long I would be with my family. It is the best place to unwind after a hard day’s work 🙂 Even when I have to go and unwind after work, I go with my lovely family, who would not even spare my phone lines as soon as it is time for me to be at home, and I am not there.
My late mum’s friend’s marriage almost hit the rocks when the lady resigned from the public service for a very lucrative bank job. The huge salary she got replaced the happy family she once had. Having a good time with her family stopped. Cooking for the family stopped. Playing with the children stopped. Having time for her husband stopped. In fact, the female house help “took over” the house. She was lucky the maid did not take over her husband too 🙂 When she noticed that her marriage and family were heading towards a collapse, she had to make a quick and hard decision – her career or her family? She chose her family !!!
Which one would you have chosen? 🙂
Thanks for you time

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Girls…Zip Up !!!

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In my last post on teenage pregnancy, I wrote about a teenager who was “reaping” the consequences of teenage pregnancy. I did promise to look at the topic again as I strongly felt that there were still other issues to be looked into on the topic.

I was not really prepared to write, as I needed a strong inspiration to do so. This eventually came a few days ago.

I felt really sad when I over heard a guy telling his friends how he slept with a “cheap girl” several times and the girl still wanted more. Apparently, there was no prior relationship between the two. He simply met her somewhere and convinced her to follow him home, As he narrated his “use and dump” story, his friends had a good laugh. Like a sheep destined to be “slaughtered” the “victim” came around again while I was still close by. The guy’s body language clearly showed that it was the same girl that came around. Unknown to her, she was just another victim of “use, dump, re-use and dump…!!!”

This sad story accounts for majority of the teenage pregnancies that we have today. A situation where it takes very little effort to convince a girl to “open her legs,” apart from being very appalling, makes the large number of cases of teen pregnancies, inevitable.

I may not be a saint, but I think that one of the most degrading characters a teenage girl (other ages are not exempted) can have is the tendency to turn herself into a “public convenience” where every guy is invited. It’s really a pathetic sight to watch guys share their sexual experience with a particular girl. Some girls find it so hard to say “no.” Often times, financial inducement is not necessary. In some cases, a guy’s smile is enough, to put a girl on bed. Such girls can sleep with every guy that is willing. How pathetic ! How shameless !!!

The common and inevitable aftermath of all these is unwanted pregnancies, denied pregnancies, abortions, damaged wombs, complete collapse of self control, getting and “distribution” of sexually transmitted diseases, especially HIV/AIDS and sometimes death !!!

Food for thought : What kind of wives would such girls later become. I feel really sorry for good guys who would eventually marry such loose and unprincipled girls, who would definately do everything possible to cover up their strong penchant for promiscuity. But can a woman hide childlessness? It is a settled fact that some cases of childlessness in marriages are traceable to abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and some “prevention” drugs – all of which characterised the pre-marriage days of the affected women !!!

So, girls…Zip up !!!

A word is enough for the wise.

Thanks for your time.

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How Powerful Can Words Be?

Two weeks ago, I was at a meeting where tempers rose because of the choice of words used which angered one of those that presided over the meeting. At a point, I thought it would lead to something more complicated. It did not. It took words – the right words – to calm down tempers.

This week, it happened again. This time, it was even more serious – words also caused the rise in tempers. Again, it took words – the right words, from the same person – to calm down tempers. Instantly, I crowned her the “Gifted Mediator” and one with the “Gift of words” 🙂

Words are indeed very powerful. One unique thing about it is that once released, they cannot be recalled. So, it implies that one has to be very careful with words. Words can bring peace in relationships, marriage or even a country. Similarly, words can cause a lot of confusion, scatter relationships and even cause war in a country or between countries.

Words need not be too many to have far-reaching effects. Simple words like “I am sorry,” “excuse me,” “please,” or “please forgive me,” have been known to have both positive or negative results, depending on whether they were said or not.

Bottom line : words require a lot of caution since they cannot be recalled once released. Sometimes, they behave like bad messengers – doing far more than you had in mind when you released them.

Thanks for your time.

Dedication : This post is dedicated to a wonderful “Gifted Mediator” who is blessed with the “Gift of Words” (identity withheld). Her near-perfect choice of words under different circumstances led to this post. I salute you madam.

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Hand Over Your “Battles” To God

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She’s 28. She is light complexioned “beauty queen.” She has a very good job. Life is really good for her. She has a very reliable fiance, with whom they have already concluded plans to go and say “I do, I do”. She would pass for anything you would call a happy and lucky lady.

In the middle of all these “good news” is a very sad aspect of her life – her boss is making life miserable for her. According to her, he insist on sleeping with her if she wants to continue working in the bank. She’s confused. She loves her job. She does not want to be a prostitute by exchanging her body for job security. She does not want to cheat on her fiance. What should she do?

There are similar battles everywhere – home, school, office, place of residence and even in the church. There are some battles that are hard to fight. This particular one is one of them. The tendency is for the lady to consider the good job and scarcity of such jobs and therefore want to give in.

The good news is that there is no battle that God cannot make the “strong men” appear like a human beings without skeletons. He has shown His awesome power in the most unimaginable situations. Hallelujah !!!

I call Exodus 14 “My Comforter.” This chapter often brings tears to my eyes every time I read it (even as I do this post). It’s a familiar story – a story of “hopelessness turned into testimony.” With the Red Sea in front and thousands of Egyptian warriors behind, God told Moses to tell the seemingly hopeless Isrealites : “Wherefore criest thou unto me? speak unto the children of Israel, that they go forward..”(Exodus 14:15). That really sounds stupid, with the reality on ground. But “…the Lord saved Israel that day out of the hand of the Egyptians; and Israel saw the Egyptians dead upon the sea shore. And Israel saw that great work which the Lord did upon the Egyptians: and the people feared the Lord, and believed the Lord, and his servant Moses.”(Exo 14:30-31)

Goliath was another oppressor who thought that size, power and weapons were more potent than the word and power of God. Everybody doubted David’s ability to confront, let alone destroy the giant. But David said “…moreover, The Lord that delivered me out of the paw of the lion, and out of the paw of the bear, he will deliver me out of the hand of this Philistine.” (1 Sam17:37) God did !!!

This is basis of my recommendation – God has shown His awesome wisdom and power in my “battles” in the past and so I can confidently tell the lady here to hand over her battles to God and enjoy the last laugh !!!

Because God fought for the Israelites and David, their stories ended up with testimonies. I have many to share myself. So, when “oppression” shows its ugly face, take up David’s attitude :

“Then said David to the Philistine, Thou comest to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied. ” (1 Sam 17:45)

Looking forward to reading your testimonies.

Thanks for your time.

 

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