Papa Was Not A Rolling Stone

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Remember the classic by The Temptations : “Papa was a rolling stone. Where ever he lays his hat, was his home?” Well, if you are as “young” as I am, you should. I came across the song and remembered my dad of blessed memory. I only added the word “not” cos my papa was certainly not a rolling stone.

My best moment everyday is having a good time with my family, especially my two adorable angels (a four year+ and 7 months+). Weekends are spent together and outings are done together. Weekdays, after work, we play together and share what I bought for them. For me it is always a great stress reliever after a hectic day. My kids always enjoy those moments a lot too. Even my 7 months+ angel displays so much excitement when she sights me on my return from work.

For me, I prefer this fun to eating and drinking my stress away in a bar or any other joint. Different strokes for different folks you might say.

There is always an origin for everything we do. My dad was a real family man – comes home straight after work. No drinking. No smoking. No womanising. No late nights. Does not sleep out. He provided for the family within his resources and made his family his number one priority. He was a real father in the real sense of it. My dad was the best. His life style brought peace to the family and we were a source of envy to those who were even better than us financially.    

I got the inspiration to do this post when I heard the very sad story of a married man who was a real rolling stone. He drank, smoked, womanised, kept late nights and sometimes, without telling his family, sleeps out. He sleeps where ever the night and “fun” catches up with him. And when he choses to go back home, he is so drunk to play his role as a father, and of course, as a husband is wishful thinking. There is hardly a day a fight does not take place in their home. And after the fight, he would go for days without a trace. This papa is a real rolling stone!

To make matters worse, he has always refused to provide for his family, even when he could afford it. In fact, you will see it on the children especially, that they lacked the care and love of a father. Otherwise how do you interpret a situation where he tells his friend to always lie to his wife that he is yet to be paid his salary. 

One obvious consequence in all of this is that his family is really in a bad shape. I pity the family a lot, especially the kids. 

Well, I just want to thank God that my papa was not a rolling stone. Cos if he was, there is the strong likelihood that I would have been one too. And my family would have been going through a similar ordeal as this man’s family. And by extension, my life would have been a true reflection of a troubled home. 

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